I don't have a lot of free time.
I work a full time job during the week and serve on the weekends.
I have learned to be particular about the people I spend the precious little time with. I have some solid, wonderful friends who are more than happy with having a workout and dinner as how we hang out. Or who are willing to give up sleeping in on a Saturday morning so we can go have brunch somewhere.
That being said there is merit in making time for the people who are important in your life.
This weekend, one of my few close friends got married. She had deemed me worthy of being her maid of honor. Barring a scheduling error, I made the time to be available for everything she's needed of me in the process of having a successful and happy wedding day.
One of the first hard lessons I learned about having and being friends is that I was not obligated to my friends. I did not owe them my time, especially if they did not respect it. Saying no meant making someone upset. Saying I already have plans earned spite. Understanding that made all the difference in the quality of friendships that I held close. It has changed the small group of people I call my friends drastically.
On the flip side of that, came a later realization - that I need to make time in my schedule for those friends who were willing to work within mine. They have the same busy lives and insane workloads that I do. So knowing that I might have to push off an errand or reschedule something I had planned for myself to be able to see them is no great sacrifice. If they had other time to give, they would.
My friends are patient and flexible with me in my schedule. So in having friends that are worth the time and respecting that, I have to give them the same courtesy. They have as much right as I do to be particular about how they spend their time.
I have these wonderful friends who are patient with me. Who make time to see me. I hope that I am making as much of an effort to make time for them as they do for me. Every moment of it is appreciated. All of the people that I chose to spend my precious little free time with are wonderful people, patient with me.
I hope all of you have such wonderful friends as I do.
I work a full time job during the week and serve on the weekends.
I have learned to be particular about the people I spend the precious little time with. I have some solid, wonderful friends who are more than happy with having a workout and dinner as how we hang out. Or who are willing to give up sleeping in on a Saturday morning so we can go have brunch somewhere.
That being said there is merit in making time for the people who are important in your life.
This weekend, one of my few close friends got married. She had deemed me worthy of being her maid of honor. Barring a scheduling error, I made the time to be available for everything she's needed of me in the process of having a successful and happy wedding day.
One of the first hard lessons I learned about having and being friends is that I was not obligated to my friends. I did not owe them my time, especially if they did not respect it. Saying no meant making someone upset. Saying I already have plans earned spite. Understanding that made all the difference in the quality of friendships that I held close. It has changed the small group of people I call my friends drastically.
On the flip side of that, came a later realization - that I need to make time in my schedule for those friends who were willing to work within mine. They have the same busy lives and insane workloads that I do. So knowing that I might have to push off an errand or reschedule something I had planned for myself to be able to see them is no great sacrifice. If they had other time to give, they would.
My friends are patient and flexible with me in my schedule. So in having friends that are worth the time and respecting that, I have to give them the same courtesy. They have as much right as I do to be particular about how they spend their time.
I have these wonderful friends who are patient with me. Who make time to see me. I hope that I am making as much of an effort to make time for them as they do for me. Every moment of it is appreciated. All of the people that I chose to spend my precious little free time with are wonderful people, patient with me.
I hope all of you have such wonderful friends as I do.
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